"Our attention is pulled and yanked and split.
And through it all, there is our relationship. Quietly pushed off to the back burner. Bidding its time. We think, "It's fine. It can wait. I'll have time for it later."
It's patient. It humbly waits its turn. We move it from the back burner to the shelf behind the stove.
It's starts looking a little thin and pale. Not as vibrant as it used to be. It feels drier and more brittle. Still, it doesn't demand. It bides its time. It does its duty.
It slips through the crack... and fades from memory.
All for the want of simple attention.
Intimacy's secret is simple. It is attention. Simple attention.
Attention is the basic food and water of a living and breathing relationship. Attention is how we nurture and feed. Attention is what we need and crave. Without attention, no relationship, no matter how strong, can survive for long. The roots of connection simply shrink and whither.
Attention is the most basic form of love. Through it we bless and are blessed.
So now, while you still can, while we're still able, go love your Love. Pay attention to him. Touch her cheek. Look in his eyes. Ask about her work. Ask him how his mother is. Don't wait. Life is short and time swiftly passes by."
We only have one opportunity to love, to give this blessing to a very important person, and it is today. And it is made by giving our attention.
Tomorrow might be too late.
Taken from James V. Cordova Ph.D.
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